You’d be forgiven for thinking your wedding is all about you. But let’s not forget the crucial roles played by friends, family, and loved ones. To guide you through the maze of responsibilities, here’s our rundown of who does what at a wedding.
For the purpose of this blog, we’re looking at the more traditional roles associated with weddings. Remember, all these positions offer flexibility and can be reversed and modified to suit your needs.
Bridesmaids and Groomsmen
Traditionally, being a bridesmaid or groomsman comes with a lengthy list of jobs to help keep wedding planning stress-free. They’re usually responsible for things like helping you choose the wedding outfits, listening to speech prep, taking the bouquet, and holding up the bride’s dress when she needs to take a pee! They’re also tasked with organising and attending your hen and stag parties.
Given the huge level of responsibility involved, these roles are perfect for showing friends and family just how important they are.
Flowers, Rings and Page Things
Let’s be honest, there’s nothing cuter than your three-year-old niece ambling down the aisle, throwing petals in your wake. So, whether it’s flowers, bubbles, balloons or a sign saying, ‘here she comes’, this is a lovely addition to your wedding party.
Remember to consider how confident your little ones are. Shyness can bring the most self-assured toddler to their knees. You might also want to use these roles to include a much-loved family pet in your day.
Best Man and Maid of Honour
With so many couples wanting to include ALL their closest friends, having one best man and one maid of honour is becoming out-dated. It’s quite common now to see several besties standing proud alongside the happy couple on their wedding day. However, you may wish to give one person the most important job of keeping the wedding rings safe.
Father of the Bride
As the name suggests, this vital role was traditionally filled by the father of the bride who would officially ‘hand over’ his daughter to her new husband. While it’s still an important part of any wedding, it’s become even more significant as a way of celebrating non-traditional families. For single parents, step-parents, siblings, and children, it’s a heart-thumping, tear-jerking role of a lifetime.
Ushers may appear superfluous and a bit OTT, but they’re fundamental to the smooth running of your day. As well as helping during the ceremony itself, they handle things like parking arrangements and organising group photos. It’s the perfect job for that super-organised, confident, chatty friend.
Speeches, Readings, Songs and Dances
For the innovative couple looking for unique, memorable ways to include those closest to them, the wedding speech, customarily given by the father of the bride, the best man and the groom, is now a chance for any of the wedding party to give praise, offer thanks, and reveal embarrassing anecdotes.
If you want to control what’s being said, try asking someone to read a favourite poem, song lyric, or piece of prose. And if it’s music that inspires you, consider inviting people to sing during your ceremony, play a musical instrument, or choreograph a dance for the evening’s entertainment.
So, that’s our guide to who does what at a wedding! With so many ways to include special friends and family, you can create a truly bespoke wedding party. Pick the right people, and they’ll fill your day with personal, memory-making moments.
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